I’ve come to like reading about parenting…sometimes. And I like hearing about developmental research and psychological studies. But I have no interest in making a talking-head movie (a series of experts sharing their opinions). For Taking Our Places, what I’m envisioning instead is getting a deep, intimate look at a few families.
Here’s the thing, I would NEVER let anyone film me and my family! Why would I? I don’t even want my friends to see me scream at my kids, boss my husband, or fail to keep even a semblance of organization or cleanliness… You know, I clean the house before folks visit, and when I’m in public, I speak politely, I show patience, I’m on my best behavior. So why would I (or anyone else) want to show the truth to the whole world?
It’s tricky to ask people to do something you would not do yourself. “How can I even ask?” I would say to my filmmaker friends. “Because some people want to,” came the answer. “You’re not going to choose families for your movie, they’ll choose you, they’ll choose your movie.” And that’s exactly what happened. My co-producer Deana Morenoff and I made some flyers and posted them around town. Most people thought, “Oh that sounds interesting, but I could never…” and a few people said, “YES!” Over the course of shooting that “YES” has turned into a much less enthusiastic “yes,” and then to a “Why did I ever agree to this?” or even an “ENOUGH!” But through the ups and downs, the three families participating in Taking Our Places have shown incredible courage, and the kind of radical honesty that the rest of us can only aspire to.